This is another excerpt from a book of poems, sayings, and other bits of wisdom that our friend Heather’s father left as a legacy for his family, entitled Bread for the Journey. This is a quote from Claude Steiner, French-American psychotherapist and writer, and founder of the concept of “Radical Psychiatry”:
“Many of us are proudest when we feel that we are living ‘good’ lives, where ‘good’ means normal, average, as others would want it to be – others whom we respect and admire and who have told us what a good life is.
Being married, successful in business, a good father, a good housewife, a civic leader, a ‘real’ man or a ‘real’ woman are all defined for us long before we are born; we are given the illusory ‘freedom’ to choose those different ways of living.
Once we choose, we are forced to keep to the directives of that particular life plan, lest we become ‘failures’ in living. The fact that blueprints for our everyday lives are, at best, extraordinarily unsatisfying is something that people find out only after they have spent a lifetime attempting to live according to the rules – too late to do anything about it!
Yet, ironically, when we wonder, after we followed all the rules, why our lives seemed senseless, we tend to blame ourselves rather than question what others told us to do.”
Other excerpts from "Bread for the Journey"
More Friday pot pourri
American Administration “angry” at Putin for not showing his commitment to peace in Ukraine
“Ceasefire?” Trump, Putin, and the selling out of Ukraine
Will Allen Dromgoole – “The Bridge Builder”
“Three Million Acres of Flame” – A review
It’s OUR OWN stories that speak most to us!
“Imagining Imagining”: Wisdom from award-winning author Gary Barwin
Flag Day is February 15 in Canada
Global communication: These are the “good old days”
The blind men and the elephant
Resolutions for 2025 for a man in his mid-60s
Basketball has changed in the past 40 years – but has it changed for the better? (Part 2)
Basketball has changed in the past 40 years – but has it changed for the better? (Part 1)
Thanksgiving 2024: Gratitude for those who share this writing journey with me
Another trip to Ireland in the books in 2024
The day in 1980 I struck a blow for Canada
Interesting place names in New Brunswick and Alberta
Ukrainian independence in the face of cowardice and appeasement
Ukrainian invasion of Russia??!
Bremen, Indiana – “A good town”
Unreturned messages: A New Brunswick particularity?
“Zelensky” (the boat, not the man) has moved on to other seas
Jourard – Life has value as long as a person has “meaningful projects”
Moving to a new community: Take the first steps
The brilliant thesis advisor I never had: Professor Ivan Lysiak Rudnytsky (1919-1984)